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Melissa is for all kids

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When first reading Melissa , I have to admit that I did not like the book. Not because of the subject, or characters, but because it was simply a fourth-grader book, and felt extremely cliche. However, I will say that my opinion of Melissa has in fact changed. This book has elicited more emotional responses in me than other books have in a while. (The ending nearly had me in tears - I'm being SO honest). As a college student, I think it is easy to get caught up in the required readings of higher education especially when interacting with authors like T.S. Elliot, and Virginia Woolf. However, I think that it is refreshing to return to books we might dismiss as simple - like Melissa - can provide readers with a lot of introspection.       Melissa's journey from confusion, to self-acceptance, to courage and bravery is one that all kids can take something from. The decision to stand up for yourself and others, and step out of your comfort zone are lessons parents definitely priorit

Melissa Part 2

 Acknowledging vs Understanding  In the second half of Melissa by Alex Gino, I was focused on the role of female relationships. As an ally, Kelly had become quite possibly my favorite character, never once doubting Melissa, and proving her loyalty to her friend through so many moments of understanding and support. Compared to the relationship Melissa has with her mother, Kelly is unwavering at every opportunity. It made me think about the differences between acknowledgement and understanding. Kelly immediately accepts Melissa, never once questioning her feelings, and takes it upon herself to educate and inform herself so that she can be a pillar of support for Melissa to lean on. Giving up her second performance as Charlotte so that her friend can fulfill her small dream as well as have a moment to step into her identity, Kelly stands out drastically to many young kids.  Comparatively, Melissa's mother goes through a much more drastic range of support for Melissa. It's understa

Melissa and her Allies

  The most striking part of the ending of Melissa was how the characters acted as allies, giving Melissa help where they could, and admitting where they could not. Scott offers an example of sincere but uninformed acceptance, the principal shows understanding, and Melissa’s mother even asks for help in helping.   The scene at the beginning of the story where Scott and Melissa play video games struck me in particular as someone who grew up with an older brother who used the same exact excuse of “mom will think it’s brother bonding time” when he wanted to play together. Scott knew that there was something bothering Melissa, he just had no idea what . W hen he later gets an idea about her identity in Arnie’s, while sincere in his compassion, he clearly does not know how to handle this situation . Scott is constantly assuring Melissa that “I’m okay with that,” and “My friend Matt is gay,” b ecause he believes that she is his gay brother, but when she opens up about her

Alex Gino's "Melissa" and the Gendered Bounds of Emotionality

     On its surface, Alex Gino's novel, Melissa , is a rather simple tale about a young trans person coming to terms with her identity and learning how to advocate for herself, even when she does not have the support from key figures in her life like her mother and her teacher. Within it, however, there is a deeper question about the gendered bounds of emotionality and how society associates one's gender identity (or perceived gender identity) and one's capacity for emotions like sympathy, empathy, and understanding.     Melissa's favorite novel is Charlotte's Web , and the character with whom she most resonates is Charlotte the spider. Melissa loves Charlotte so much that, when Charlotte dies at the end of the book, she bursts into tears, both in sadness over the character's death and in reverence for Charlotte's kindness and wisdom. When Melissa is then picked on by Rick and Jeff for expressing her emotions in a way that seems unbecoming for someone whom o

Melissa and Scott

We, as a society, tend to focus heavily on the negative repercussions of coming out—rejection, judgement, even cruelty. Especially in our class, where we lean into challenging conversations about. But there are so many reasons to celebrate coming out, and I felt as though Alex Gino did a wonderful job at conveying this message in   Melissa . I wanted to specifically talk about Scott, Melissa’s brother, and perhaps the most stereotypically teenage boy character I have ever read about. In the first half of the book, it is clear that Melissa and Scott have a somewhat strained sibling relationship. Melissa almost seems intimidated by her older brother, a reaction that may be inspired by the similarities between Scott’s character and that of Melissa’s school bullies. After coming out to her brother, however, Melissa is grateful for Scott’s nonchalant, yet supportive response. “Scott snuck glances her way too, but where Mom’s eyes with filled with concern and confusion, Scott looked at Georg

Importance of Safe Spaces

          A section of the book Melissa  by Alex Gino that stood out to me was the scene in the principal office. Melissa had stood up to Jeff for his bullying, Jeff punched her causing her to throw up, and now they are having meetings with the principal. In the office, Melissa looks at the wall decor and notices a sign that says, "Support safe spaces for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender youth." Heartbreakingly, Melissa wondered where she could find a safe space like that, and if there would be other girls like her there (Gino 125). Here I think Gino is pointing out how there needs to be more safe spaces and they need to be visible and better advertised to those who might need them. The sign suggests that the principal wants the school to be a safe space or at the very least her office. But for Melissa, school and her home are not safe places in which she can be herself without fear of bullying and unacceptance. At the end of the novel, Melissa gains a safe space in he

Melissa was pretty alright, though not a book I'd need to reread

  As I read and finish Melissa by Alex Gino, I must often remind myself that it is a book meant for children and young readers. I feel as though I like part of the story and other aspects I could go without. I don’t particularly enjoy having to do an in-depth analysis of a book created and written for younger audiences, but there is much to be discussed about this book.  First off, what is both a positive and negative aspect for this book is its easy digestibility. The feminine and masculine stereotypes are condensed into bite-sized pieces for younger children to understand and possibly even relate to, which just means that the book will be easily enjoyed. This is great because it sets up a linear understanding that Melissa hates all stereotypical boy things such as her ratty sneakers, but loves all stereotypical girl things like makeup and skirts and pretty swimsuits (which is valid because those things are fun!). Yet, there is a detriment to this mutual exclusivity of stereotypes.

Melissa

     As much as I critiqued Melissa  in our class Monday, the story is so heartwarming and amazing. As a middle grade/children's novel, even though it has its faults just like any other book, it is soo powerful. Generally, Melissa  is about a kid coming to terms with her gender identity as a trans girl and finding that people, given time, are more or less supportive.       Kelly, even though initially she seems a little gender essentialist given her comments about Melissa being a boy because he has a penis, comes around incredibly quickly once Melissa actually comes out to her. Kelly is such an overwhelming and unquestionably supportive friend to Melissa with everything she does, and she shows that coming out to your friends, even though they may seem a little insensitive, you can come out on the other side without losing everyone and everything you love and care about, that there will (probably) be someone in your corner no matter what.       Melissa's mother, even though she

The Kids are Aright

  Tyra Alexander 10 April 2024 EN*499 Dr. Ellis The Kids are Alright After reading “Melissa”, I've come to realize that the kids are fine. A lot of discourse surrounding book bannings come from parents who are afraid of who their children might become. But, ‘might become what’? A decent human being? Many of the classmates in the novel showed me that children aren't the ‘creatures’ some adults may think they are. Yes, they’re easily impressionable but at their young age, they don’t harbor bias and discrimination in a way some adults do. However, it's inevitable that those adults who are prejudiced, raise prejudiced children. And we see that a lot with Melissa’s classmates. For example, the day after the play at recess, many of Melissa’s classmates, with the help of Kelly, congratulated Melissa and really commended her for taking that leap of faith. On the other hand, there was Jocelyn and Jeff who were not being very nice. I don’t blame this on them at all, I simply blam

Kelly's Role in Melissa

     Over the course of Alex Gino's, Melissa , I was continuously struck by the portrayal of young students gaining access to vocabulary, becoming confident in their identities, and supporting one another. Specifically, these instances were depicted by Melissa and Kelly. I found this novel to be especially poignant for its its representation of young children understanding concepts of gender identity and handling the subject matter with care.      For instance, in the scene where Kelly first acknowledges the fact that Melissa is a girl, she says "I'm sorry I ignored you last week...and you know what? If you think you're a girl...then I think you're a girl too!" (Gino 104). Immediately following Kelly's reassurance, "the open-mouth surprise and joy on George's face only made Kelly smile harder" (104). In many ways, this scene reminded me of the moment that Justin comes out to Callie in Drama . Both scenes depict a character accepting the ident

Gender Queer: Thoughts

The second half of  Gender Queer: A Memoir  by Maia Kobabe offers a lot of insightful, and thoughtful aspects of navigating a cis-gendered world. In the later chapters we see the narrator and main protagonist of the story Maia become emersed in the possibilities of the world after living a rather simple, sheltered, and traditional life.    An aspect that I appreciate about the novel is the idea of role models throughout the story. Maia highlights the influence of David Bowie’s music, Olympic figure skater Johnny Weir, and writings of Oscar Wilde. It is nice to be able to put names to thoughts and feelings; these people who were simply being themselves let other curious minds know that they are not alone with certain feelings. It is a way to easily develop upon certain ideas that were already forming. Now Maia has the opportunity to be a role model for students and expose them to a society where gender terms do not have to define your identity.    Another important leaning opportunity t

Future Boobs, or The Dichotomy Of Childhood in Gender Queer

          Children are, on a very basic level, genderless at birth. They’re not sexless, but it can more or less ignored for the most part for the first few years of their life, save for in medical contexts. If you wrap a baby girl in a blue blanket, you’ll fool just about anyone into cooing, “What a handsome baby boy!”. Kids are mostly amorphous human beings until about age 9. I’m not just using this language to be subversive, I honestly dare you to take every toddler you can find, put them in identical dresses, and guess their sexes. It’s not impossible, but it’s hard. They’re all flat-chested and chubby-faced, and their hair is in different stages of still-learning-how-to-grow-out-evenly. I’m being vaguely inflammatory here, but my point is that Kobabe captures that seemingly ambivalent nature of childhood perfectly in the early pages of Gender Queer , detailing eir friendship with eir neighbor’s son, Galen.  The moment I’m talking about only takes up half a page, but early in the

How Banning Harms Self Expression in Gender Queer

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🠊      In class, we've discussed mostly how book-banning harms the potential readers of those books, but banning harms the authors too. Most of the books we have read have incorporated the author's personal experiences, especially Gender Queer , a memoir of its author, Maia Kobabe. In this memoir, Kobabe expresses through comics eir personal experiences of eir journey of gender identity. Self expression is such an inate human thing, most people leave their mark on the world in creative ways, be that writing a book, writing their names on things, creating art, etc. Gender Queer  does not tell people what to do or how to act (so its not pushing an agenda) it is simply Maia Kobabe sharing eir life experiences, gender identity, and pronouns. Also eir growth from internalizing eir feelings to having the confidence to share emself with others. Sometimes words are hard or there isn't language available to articulate what you want to say. Kobabe found a way to achieve this through

Thoughts and Opinions on Gender Queer

  I’m not going to lie, I enjoyed Gender Queer much, much more than I thought I would. Perhaps I still have a lingering sense of superiority over graphic novels, but there was true brilliance in this graphic novel that Kobabe was able to share. I had spoken to someone about this book and he said that it was truly written for students our age. Kobabe’s story is raw and real and vulnerable, sharing reality and is truly created for older audiences.      In class, we’ve had ample discussion about what it means to find value in a book that shares one’s own truth, and the same can be said about Kobabe’s story. The way e crafts the journey of eir life, from wondering to exploring to finding truths is something that was discussed in Dawson’s book This Book is Gay . Simply speaking, the ability to see the truth, a real life memoir and account that someone experienced is so powerful. This isn’t to say that any other book telling a story about gender dysphoria and the exploration of self-identit

How "Gender Queer" Makes Use of Illustrations to Enhance Descriptions of Queer Experiences

     Maia Kobabe's Gender Queer  is a memoir that catalogues every intimate detail of the author's life experience as e grew on eir gender journey and how e came to terms with eir identity while navigating some of the most challenging and impactful stages of life. Throughout the memoir, Kobabe articulates the depths of eir queer experience beautifully, utilizing language that is both profound and poetic while also being clear and unpretentious, and e balances eir heartfelt memoir with a good amount of humor to bring levity to otherwise heavy subjects. What most strikes me about Gender Queer , however, is the brilliant illustrations and Kobabe's excellent use of them to depict the aspects of eir gender journey that words simply cannot express on their own.     One such illustration that Kobabe uses in eir memoir to amplify an experience e had is the illustration that accompanies eir first experience at the gynecologist. As a GNC (gender-nonconforming) person who was assigned

I Should've Read This Sooner... The Importance of Education and Rewriting Public Policy

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  I Should've Read This Sooner... The Importance of Education and Rewriting Public Policy            I've never read a book like Gender Queer before, and I wish I did sooner. I thought the memoir was extremely well-written, engaging, and most importantly informative. I won't lie, I was not expecting such graphic scenes to occur while reading ( to be blunt; maybe reading this in a public space on your laptop with full brightness while babysitting isn't the best decision), but then again, It's my fault for not reading the disclaimers...THAT BEING SAID, the information this book holds is without question innately valuable.      I've always been a proponent of education, education in all forms. To understand something or someone, I believe you must be educated, or educate yourself. Before coming to Loyola, I believed I was thoroughly educated. I was informed about history, economics, religion, reading in many forms, and various subjects of science. I felt like I was

Gender Queer

     In Gender Queer,  the thing that struck me the most was how important having relationships with people who are allies or in the community, not just because they make it easier to come out, but also because you can just rant and be yourself around them with (more or less) no fear of judgement.      However, one of the things I thought was missing out a little bit (though obviously this is an autobiography so if it didn't happen, why would it be in the book ...?) was the role allies/queer folx/plain old friends can have in the situations where Kobabe was being referred to by the wrong pronouns or with other gendered language. One of the things I was just waiting for to happen this entire book was for someone who wasn't Maia to step up and speak out that "hey, that's wrong" or "it's e actually" and stuff like that, or even with the "ladies" comment, to put the eyes on themselves and be like "hey, I'm not comfortable with that&quo

The Importance of Having a Creative Outlet in “Gender Queer”

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Tyra Alexander 3 April 2024 EN*499 Dr. Ellis The Importance of Having a Creative Outlet  in “Gender Queer” To put it simply, “Gender Queer” by Maia Kobabe was incredible. From beginning to end, I felt like I was living the life with Kobabe; experiencing eir experiencing, feeling eir emotions. Everything e put in the book was raw, it was real. And I owe it mostly to its medium. Like I discussed before, graphic novels allow us to see exactly what the author wants us to see. With traditional novels, it's usually up to the reader to interpret the authors’ words. Thus, leaving a lot of gray areas and a lot of important messages unrealized. Although “Gender Queer” is in color, the purpose Kobabe wants to exhibit is in black and white– the exposed experience of someone who is gender queer and the hardships they go through. Let me be real for a second– I know absolutely nothing about what queer individuals go through. Some may try to depict the queer experience of racism, and I find that r